Position: Full-Time Butler (Temp-to-Perm)
Location: New York City (Primary Residence), with travel to Aspen and the Hamptons
Schedule: Monday–Friday in NYC, with flexibility during travel periods
Compensation: $150K+ DOE | Benefits included
Start: ASAP | 3-month temp trial, with the goal of transitioning to permanent
A warm, dynamic family based in New York City is seeking a highly professional, service-oriented Butler with light driving responsibilities to support their day-to-day lifestyle, events, travel, and home operations. The role is full-time, temp-to-perm, with guaranteed hours and significant long-term growth potential for the right candidate.
This is an ideal opportunity for someone with a strong hospitality background, excellent communication skills, a discreet presence, and a natural ability to “read the room” while remaining highly attentive to details. Travel to Aspen and the Hamptons is required, and the role is deeply rooted in thoughtful service, family-friendly flexibility, and polished professionalism.
Schedule & Travel Expectations:
- NYC Base Schedule: Monday–Friday, starting at 7 AM (school drop-offs), generally ending by 4–5 PM
- Flexibility required on event days (occasional evenings)
- Aspen: During holidays (2–3 trips per winter, 1–2 weeks per trip)
- Hamptons: Month of August and occasional summer weeks (shared staff housing provided)
- When traveling: Flexibility for 7-day coverage with compensatory days off upon return
Key Responsibilities:
Hospitality & Event Support
- Set the tone and aesthetic for regular entertaining and special events
- Coordinate seamlessly with the Chef and Housekeeping staff (e.g., dinnerware selection, lighting, ambiance)
- Be present and available during events—quietly overseeing, anticipating needs, assisting with service
- Recommend wines and beverages to pair with meals
- Assist with welcoming and orienting guests—ensure a warm, professional, and polished experience
Household Coordination
- Support communication between household staff and Principal (using WhatsApp, Google Docs, Gmail)
- Oversee daily household checklists and maintenance routines
- Communicate with and manage outside vendors and service providers (e.g., in Aspen and Hamptons)
- Conduct walkthroughs and monitor home cleanliness, safety, and presentation
- Coordinate closely with the Director of Residences on logistics, updates, and special requests
Family Support
- Drive the children to school or activities as needed
- Help engage children in age-appropriate, light participation (e.g., “Want to help set the table?”)
- Occasionally assist with errands, pick-ups, or support nannies
- Assist with packing, unpacking, and organizing for family travel
- Manage snack prep, travel arrangements, and on-the-ground details for family trips
General Duties
- Maintain and track household inventory, including supplies, toiletries, and pantry items
- Manage wine inventory and cellar organization
- Make reservations and coordinate dining or outing logistics
- Provide high-end hospitality service (dinner service, bartending, etc.)
- Coordinate closely with property managers in Aspen and the Hamptons for seasonal prep, repairs, and access
- Ensure all household staff are supported and checklists are completed
- Offer light driving as needed (errands, pick-ups)
Qualifications:
- 5+ years of experience in private service and hospitality or front-of-house roles
- Background in butlering or high-end event service strongly preferred
- Must be NYC-based and legally authorized to work in the U.S.
- Valid driver’s license and clean driving record
- Excellent communication skills; comfortable with tech (Google Workspace, messaging apps, and Savant)
- Highly organized, polished, discreet, and emotionally intelligent
- Flexible and adaptable, with a positive, "always-on" mindset
- Experience working around children and a natural, friendly rapport with them
- Able to travel and live on-site during trips (private accommodations provided)
Compensation & Benefits:
- Salary: $150K+ DOE
- Full benefits package
- Private accommodations provided during travel
- Temp trial with intent to hire permanently
DM Estate Staffing is a domestic staffing firm based in Silicon Valley, California. We place highly skilled Private Service Professionals with private clients and family offices. While our roots are in Silicon Valley, our reach is nationwide, encompassing key markets such as Aspen, Austin, Los Angeles, Miami, New York City, Palm Beach, Silicon Valley, and Washington, DC.
You may know us as Domestic | Match and Private Chef | Match. After 12 years of expansion, we’ve evolved into the top choice for domestic staffing services. As our journey has unfolded, we’ve expanded beyond the constraints of our original brand, spreading our reach to encompass a broad spectrum of roles within the private estate and family office sectors.
What Makes Us Unique
Drawing upon over 70 years of collective expertise in private service, luxury hospitality, and yachting, DM Estate Staffing’s team boasts a deep understanding of the intimate relationship between private employers and their household staff. Our team’s personal experience in these roles fuels our continued passion and commitment to our recruitment efforts today. We approach our work with zeal and are dedicated to ensuring that clients and candidates alike discover the ideal match.
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